Today’s post is a part of the Springfield Bloggers Association “Take It and Blog Fridays.” The theme today is how you met your significant other.
Here’s the short story: Rob was playing drums in a band, Amsterband, and my best friend was dating the lead singer. She said, “I think you’d like the drummer. He’s cute, funny, and smart.” I went to a barbecue at Cedarbrook and we checked each other out, barely talking to each other. I called him a couple days later, we went on a date, and two years later, we tied the knot.
But the long story is so much more interesting!
Rob grew up in Marzahn, a somewhat infamous district in Berlin. I grew up in Overland Park, Kansas, and Neosho, Missouri.
During Gymnasium (somewhat like American high school, but more similar in accomplishment to high school plus an associate’s degree), one of Rob’s good friends, Christian, was an exchange student to West Plains, Missouri. Christian became friends with Brian Roberts.
Brian, a guitar player, loves Germany, and during college, did an internship in Nuremberg. While there, he visited Berlin to see Christian and hung out with Christian’s friends. That’s how he met Rob. They engaged in general merry-making, which often included jam sessions.
Brian finished his internship and returned to Southwest Missouri State University, but stayed in contact with Rob. When he wanted to start a band, he emailed Rob and asked him if he wanted to come over to the U.S. of A. to play in his band.
Rob was at a unique point in his life. He was 21 and had just finished the required two-year civil service. He said yes, shipped his drumset and packed everything that was important to him in two large duffel bags. The band, soon to be known as Amsterband, is filled out by Luke, a fellow Zizzer that Brian knew growing up.
Meanwhile, Beth breaks up with her long-time boyfriend. Then she meets Luke at the weight room. They go on a couple dates, but then Beth meets Brian. Luke moves on and Beth and Brian start dating. During dinner one night, Beth tells me all about the interesting characters that live at Cedarbrook (the name all the guys use to refer to their house). There are 5 guys living in a 3-bedroom, 1 1/2 bath house on North Cedarbrook. She tells me about the German guy and tells me we should go on a date.
Here’s where it gets interesting.
Beth and I go to that barbecue and Rob and I spend the evening observing each other from afar. I call him a few days later and we decide to go on a date.
He still holds it against me that I made him watch xXx on our first date.
We date for a few months, and then I dump him. He’s getting too serious too quickly and I don’t like it.
We get back together after three days. Then I dump him again a couple weeks before Christmas. We talked a couple times a week for a month or so. Finally, I realized that this guys really loves me. That, despite having been dumped by me twice, he still has a pure love for me, not that nasty obsession that so many people develop after a break up. That I was living in the past, hoping that I could get back together with an ex. That Rob is here now and he’s sweet and funny and unendingly interesting because he’s from another culture.
We get back together in January, and the rest, as they say, is history. We were married on our two-year anniversary in the church in Westport, Kansas City, where three generations of my family have gotten married before me. That was 5 years, 7 months ago, and we have grown so much, done so much, in that time. I am really excited to see what happens in the next 5 1/2 years!